People Pleasing: A Happiness Thief

Do I still care if you like me? Does it matter if you backstab me? Will I get mad if you insult me?

We need to accept the fact that some people may like us and some may not.

For us to keep sane, we need to segregate those people who won't ever like us from people who love us no matter what.

You see, haters gonna hate regardless how you do in life. You may do good and your haters will make it seem you've done worse. You will make mistakes and your haters will make a great deal about those mistakes. No matter what you do, good or bad, for them it will always be bad. So why care? You will never ever be able to please them, so stop trying to do that  and begin to love yourself.

On the other hand, there are true friends who will take you as you are, accept your differences, understand your short-comings but will never judge you. These kind of people are hard to find, so when you find them, take care of them because they are a keeper.

A mind-set like this will set you free from anxieties, stress and anger. A mind-set like this will give you happiness because you have the power of choice. You choose which ones to let go and which ones to keep in your life.

So go through the people in your life. Assess who should go and who should stay. Because me? I am doing that right now. I  couldn't care less if I only have a few number of friends left who are less than the fingers in  my two hands. What matters most is that I kept the most treasured ones.  The ones who will never think of judging me.

So, do I still care if you hate me? Hell NO! Manigas ka diyan kasi ang saya-saya ko :))) Tomorrow is the weekends already.  Happy Friday!

Basketball Summer Clinic

We're into the last week of the first month of classes already. Ang bilis ng panahon, parang kelan lang we were thinking what summer activities our kid should enroll into.

I mentioned in my previous post that he attended a one-day cooking activity in April which I don't know if he enjoyed. Last May, we enrolled him in a 4-day basketball clinic sponsored again by the company where hubby works.

Funny thing is, I thought I knew how to assess my kid. I knew he does not like basketball, that's why maybe I judged him not to have any potentials in my chosen sports for him. I was surprised when hubby mentioned to me that the coach for their age bracket approached them after workshop and told hubby that our son has potentials. He has footworks and shooting skills daw. I just laughed it off, and told him, are you sure that the coach is talking about our kid? He may be referring to another kid.  Ang sama kong nanay no? Patawad na po.

Anyway, during the last day of workshop, I took a leave of absence in our office and accompanied Wyeth in his basketball clinic.  When it was over I called Wyeth if he would like me to get him chicken nuggets and hotdogs outside the gym, kasi its free for the kids. The Coach saw me called Wyeth and talked to me.

Coach:  Mommy, is he your son?

Me: Yes coach... :)

Coach: Mommy, he is very good. He's got lots of potentials. You just need to enroll him in a regular basketball workshop to enhance more of his skills.

Me: Ganun po ba :)   Thanks coach!

Umabot sa tenga ang mga ngiti ko muthers! Totoo nga ang tsismis ng asawa ko. The kid has potentials! Sino pa ako para mag duda, I heard it straight from coach's mouth.

I just felt bad, kasi ako na nanay, I did not believe in my son's skills. Ibang tao pa ang naka notice. So lesson learned mga mommies, never underestimate our kids capabilities and potentials. Nakakahiya na iba pa ang makapuna. I was just amazed with my kid, because even if he did not like basketball, he tried his best to enjoy the sports. Which I think he enjoyed this workshop better than the cooking activity.

Me and my hubby are both fans of basketball, kaya kilig kami sa assessment ni coach kay Wyeth. Kaya we are trying to find a good basketball clinic that we can enroll my kid in. Sayang naman kung hindi ma develop ang potentials.

Any suggestions? Saturday and Sunday lang sya puede. Thanks!

I will update this post to add a video of his workshop, once I learned how to upload a video here coming from instagram. I had to reset my iphone because of some issues kaya nawala lahat ng videos and photos ko. Stupid of me not to back up those files.

Ok, bye for now!

And the CAVS wins!

"Makapag Boracay na nga lang!"

Kawawa naman ang mga pumusta sa warriors, maglalabas ng pera. Hihihihi!

I rooted for warriors, sadly their best is not enough. Sayang naman yung 93 wins nila.  Record breaking na talaga na masasabi. Bukod sa Cavs, mukang masaya rin ang Bulls.  Siempre, hindi naagaw ang record nila from them.

Hays! Balik Ginebra na uli!




Photo taken from the internet:  Caption from yours truly

Sunday Happiness Boost

I saw this article on my Facebook feed and I want to share it with you. A few strategies to relieve our stress and boost our happiness. Specially dedicated to those who hate Mondays just like me. :)

1. Decide to be happier.

This opens the door to other effective strategies.

2. Do something that gets you into a happy mood.

For me, it’s creating original music. I get completely caught up in the experience of flow. Find your own source of that feeling.

3. If you’re in an unfortunate predicament, change it or accept it. 

Then go on with the rest of your life. Don’t get trapped by rumination about what’s wrong with your life.

4. Live more, think less.

Don’t try to force yourself to look at only the positive, or try to tune out negative aspects of life. Instead, accept reality as it is and go on with life: work, eat, sleep, take care of yourself, interact with others — just keep going.

5. Strive to accomplish things.

Just put one foot in front of the other, over and over. Celebrate small wins.

6. Attempt to reach your full potential.

Visualize what you could be like at your best.

7. Organize your life and goals.

Know which direction you’d like to travel in life and how you can start. You don’t need to see the whole journey or worry about crossing bridges until you're in front of them. All you need is a general sense of direction, determined by what you most value, and to know the next step in that direction.

8. Act happy.

Sometimes faking it actually helps. Change your body language; smile more. Think of a little baby clapping its fat hands in glee (or other image that makes you smile). For a little while, be that baby.

9. Focus on maintaining relationships.

Keep reaching out to your nearest and dearest, meeting them halfway at least. If they tread on your toes, don’t be a doormat. Assert your expectations calmly but firmly. They’ll learn that you respect yourself and your relationship will benefit from mutual respect.

10. Pursue career goals.

Many people feel energized by this challenge. However, if your boss or work situation is toxic, you might need to look for other opportunities.

11. Interact with friends and delight in their company.

Laughing with friends is my idea of bliss.

12. Exercise.

Even a few minutes of maximum effort is useful if you do it several times a week. Find some vigorous physical activity that suits you and make it part of your routine.

13. Maintain your physical health.

Make time to prepare and relish real meals instead of settling for processed snacks and sugary stuff. Sit less, move more.

14. Accept support from friends.

Support and encourage them in return.

15. Savor the moment.

Happiness is not just a distant destination. It’s here and now. Gratitude for what you already have can be like sun, lighting up even the darkest places.

16. Pray or meditate.

Life is not all thinking and doing. Sometimes it’s good to be still and experience the joy of just being. Experience every breath as a gift.

17. Seek support from your beliefs.

When you can read meaning into a difficult situation, you can come through almost anything and still be happy.

18. Party!

No explanation needed!

19. Work on your hobbies.

Find something enjoyable but challenging enough that will allow your talents and interests to be developed.

20. Become more active in your leisure time.

Limit your “passive leisure.” A healthy dose of relaxation is good. However, if you overdo watching TV, surfing the Internet, shopping, or lazing around, it's more likely to predict unhappiness than happiness.

You don't have to try all of these things at once. Pick the one or two strategies that best fit your life. Start today, and, before you know it, you'll be experiencing more happiness. Take courage from science. What's worked well for thousands of others is likely to work for you. Don’t wait for happiness to fall into your lap: Grow your own!

Credits below:

The author of this article is Dr. Joel Almeida who is a doctor and scientist, and posted this article via MindBodyGreen website. 

Golden State wins Game 2 over Cavaliers!

After ko ma bad vibes,  good vibes naman na ako when I saw in my feed that GSW took game 2 in 2016 NBA finals.

Ang lakas nila. Grabe!

Yun lang! Pang pa good vibes lang Guys!

Bad Vibes morning!

I never wanted my Sunday na na babad trip. Rest day ko to at day of muni muni.  This particular person, came to our house and shouted, Len! Kape nga! I answered sige, then ask our helper to prepare the coffee. E atat, sumigaw uli, Hoy kape!

Uminit ulo ko, napatulan ko talaga. Kung makahingi naman kasi ng kape, kala mo may pinatagong kape at asukal. Papakapehin kita, papa kainin pa nga kita e, wag ka lang umastang bahay mo yun at close tayo.

Tsk! I never said na mabait ako, I never said mahaba ang pasensya ko. Work in process nga ako diba?
You know I could really be in beast mode pag bastos ka. Tahimik akong tao, pero I will put you in your place kung mambabastos ka. Sorry I don't allow anyone to be bullied much more mag-pa bully. Period.

 I need to rant!  Sorry guys! Ibigay nio na sa akin to. Thanks!

A Movie Not Only For Cougars

We were able to watch this last Monday, a coming of age movie about a 50-year old woman who discovers her passion only when her husband died.

Aliw na aliw ako sa dialogue. Mababaw lang naman ako. Basta relate tawa ako. Actually di lang naman ito about Cristy (Dawn Zulueta) rediscovering her passion. It was also about JC  (Piolo Pascual) who have not yet figured out what he wants to do with his life who is already in his 30's.

Samahan mo pa ng nakakatawang Carmi Martin, benta sa akin ang pelikula.

Cristy, a 50-year old woman, decided to pursue her passion in the fashion industry when her husband died. While JC was a self-centered DJ in his 30's na feeling nya umiikot ang mundo sa kanya at di kikita ang club kung hindi dahil sa kanya. Dilemma yata ng mga nasa 30's ito.

Mababaw na istorya pero keber na sa mga nag review ng pangit, opinion naman nila yun. Basta sa akin feel good movie sya. Panoorin niyo this weekend, if stressed ka sa work this past few days, de-deadmahin niyo na yung stress niyong yan.

Somehow, kay JC ako naka relate because, I have experienced the feeling of being confused. There was a time na I was confused between continuing to be an employee or go into business, or doing both at the same time. Now I know what I want and made plans on how to go about what I really wanted.

Konti na lang, konti pa nandun na. Sana, I pray to God na sana nga, but if  His will for me is different from the way I pictured it to be, I pray to God that I will be able to embrace it.

O sya sya, nood na!

GSW wins Game 1: 89-104

Oh em gee!

Warriors wins first game of the 2016 NBA finals.

You know guys, the last time I went gaga over NBA was the time of  Magic and Bird. Panahon pa ni Jaworski sa PBA. So oo, ang tanders ko na.

I am an avid fan of basketball, especially PBA. My first memory of PBA was that of a game between Crispa and Toyota. I heard my Dad and Kuya that they were going to watch the game in Araneta and because of that I got exposed to watching basketball on tv.

 I was in grade 6 when I became a fan of Purefoods, because of Jolas. And because even if they were an underdog they managed to  win over Ginebra that time. When I was in college, UAAP naman ang kinabaliwan ko. I was a student of  UST for those years that they got the three-peat title. Ang saya saya talaga manood ng basketball.

Fast forward to today, I am now a fan of a different team, just because my hubby works there.  And last year, I became a fan of GSW, I became an avid fan of Stephen Cury. I was again hooked with NBA.

Bakit Warriors? Their history and background had me root for them. When a team has not won any championship much less got into finals for so many decades, and then there they were, pasok sa finals, you will surely root for this team because you know that they are hungry for the title. (Though, Cubs also had their finals drought for decades as well. Di ko sila bet kasi di ko lang type si Lebron). They did not fail the fans and the newly formed fans of this team. They snatched that title from Cubs last year,  and this year was a re-match. RE-MATCH!! Ang saya saya.

Bakit Cury? Ang galing nya, period. Though my hubby said mas magaling si Thompson. Mas pogi naman si Cury. Magaling na, pogi pa. Hahaha.

Anyways, all-out GSW ulit ako this year. Feeling ko mananalo sila, home-court advantage e. Kaso nakakaawa naman cubs if they lose again this year. Oh well, that how sports is, may winner, may loser.

Can't wait for Game 2 on June 7, Manila time.